Remember Patty Hearst? She was a socialite heiress, captured by the Symbionese Liberation Army, and rapidly brainwashed into becoming a bank robber. What was rarely, if ever, mentioned, is that the techniques used to affect that radical transformation began with her captors establishing themselves in parental roles.

The most important question any of us can ask ourselves is this: Who are we brainwashing our children to become? Because whether you’re doing it on purpose or not, you’re doing it.

So…what do you want for your kids? Let me know, I’d love to hear….

I think Mother Theresa was selfish. I don’t mean that in a bad way, I mean that Mother Theresa knew that, for her, helping other people made life worth living. I trust that kind of selfishness - it’s rooted in truth.

Most people don’t know what Mother Theresa knew. They enter relationships to “get something” without ever admitting their true motivation. And so there is something false that comes through. An anxiety that they might be found out, either by the other person or by themselves!

It’s only those rare few that understand the fundamental passion of their own lives and enter every relationship sorting for how to make that passion manifest.

I have a blog about Pathbreakers - people who live uncompromising lives and succeed in finding that perfect intersection of doing what they love and making money. I interview them and find out how they do what they do. And the thing that is shared by every one of them is that they know what they want, they commit to it, and they are uncompromising about building their lives around it. They are selfish about attending to it and not letting anything get in the way - not other people’s opinions, not what they should do, not their lack of time or the state of the world - nothing.

Recently, I’ve found a new pathbreaker. He is the darling of the social media world and I can understand why. Chris Brogan is enthralled by what he does. He has found what he is passionate about and he does it all the time, selfishly following his fascination, non-stop. And, like Mother Theresa, because he’s doing what he loves, he is able to act selflessly in a way few others can; he’s able to actually give back to the people he interacts with. And people respond to that. I respond to that.

This video is a tribute to his work and to his and Julien Smith’s new book Trust Agents. The video is about why true trust is always founded in the deep integrity of knowing what you want in your life.

And without further adieu, here’s why I only trust the selfish:

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